I would love to tell our story. David's first wife died in 1992. I was unhappily married twice. I had just separated from my second husband and was very lonely. My daughter suggested I put up a personal ad on the Internet. I really didn't think there'd be anyone interested in me, but I did it anyway.
I met 5 or 6 men before I met David. None of them interested me. They were pretty nice people, just no chemistry. I had just about given up hope and came across your site. I thought I'd put my ad on there because it was free to list it. I figured if someone contacted me fine, but I wasn't going to contact anyone.
Well, just after a couple weeks, David wrote to me. I saved all his emails. He wrote one thing that caught my eye. He wrote that his wife had been his best friend. I never thought either of my ex's were my best friend, but that's what I wanted. I actually had dreams about a man who (in my dreams) was very much like David (but I couldn't see his face). I was still married at the time to my second husband. I started having these dreams about the time David's first wife died. This man in my dreams was so comfortable to be around. The dreams were not sexual in any way. He was just a wonderful companion. I used to feel guilty about dreaming about this man when I was married to someone else. But, that comfort I felt in my dreams was something I never experienced in my marriage. So when my second husband left me to go live with his Dad, it was the best thing he could have done for me.
I felt very comfortable about meeting David. He was fairly local, only 40 miles away. He was a part-time farmer and worked full time as well, so he was busy. He had told me all about his first marriage and his family and had sent photos of his family. When I saw his photo, I was kind of disappointed because I didn't think I'd be attracted to him. But that statement he made about his first wife being his best friend spoke to me. So, I invited him to my home for dinner. He had already sent me flowers on two occasions. He brought more when he came to dinner.
We cooked the dinner together. He was very sweet, but I wasn't attracted to him. Afterwards I told my daughter he was very nice but I wasn't attracted to him. She said that I was superficial and to give him another chance, so I did. I came over to his house for our next date to see where he lived and how he lived. His house was identical to my first house only it had one more bathroom and one more bedroom than mine did. We had a wonderful time. We saw each other a couple times a week every chance we got. I knew after about a month that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. He was so kind to me. Treated me like a princess.
Shortly after we met, I got a herniated a disk in my neck and had to have surgery. He was by my side the whole time. It was after that that I knew he loved me. He even wrote me a poem telling me so. We got married 16 months after we met. We have had very few disagreements, if you even want to call them that. I have never been this happy or contented. We've been married almost 2 years, and I'm as happy now as I was the day we got married.
When I hear people snicker about meeting someone on the Internet, I just smile, because I met a one-in-a-million and encourage every single person I know to give it a shot. I think we may have met anyway, eventually, because I later had a job where his sister worked, and I knew her boss from being a neighbor. Her boss was the first person I met when I moved back to Illinois from California.
I think David was the man in my dreams. I just couldn't see his face, but I knew from those dreams that I needed to have someone in my life who would be my best friend, and David is. He once came to dig me out of a bad snow storm. He had waited all night for the snow plow to come by so he could get out and get to my house to dig me out.
I had a big house to sell and a house full of furniture to get rid of and David helped me with everything. Any problem I had, he solved it for me. I don't know what I would have done without him. He is truly a blessing! My whole family loves him. Many of my family only met him at our wedding, but my sister who never had anything good to say about my ex, said that David and I complement each other.
My only regret is that I didn't meet him sooner. I would like to have been with him my whole life. But we're both over 50 now and can appreciate the time we have together much more than we might have otherwise.
I lost a sister to Cystic Fibrosis and he lost a wife to Cancer. I once told him I thought the two of them got together in heaven and worked on getting us together so we could take care of each other. He said he liked that idea. It just feels so right. Thanks!
Sharon and David